Another post from one of our readers, Alyssa, who loves to share her dating experiences!
My most recent experience with dating has been a fiasco. Are all men born liars or do they acquire this as they age?
I thought that I had seen everything, but this last relationship defied all previous ones.
I met “Don the Liar” back in June. He seemed like the all American genuine real down to earth, successful, dynamic, educated dream man. What could possibly be wrong with him? I am a very experienced dater and was looking for signs that were inconsistent with what he was telling me. The first few months, there were none
He called every day, sent sweet text and expressed such a strong interest in me. It was very flattering and I started to let my guard down. He even came to my house for a weekend and never tried to have sex with me. I had already set the ground rules prior to his visit.
The first little “red flag” from “Don the Liar” was when he told me that two years ago he had a tumor on his spinal column that he had to have chemo for. He mentioned that only 4 people in the entire world knew about this. I thought it was odd.
After a wonderful weekend, he left and instant messaged me that evening about how much he liked me and inquired if I could love his daughter. We spoke for several hours. Well, to my shock and dismay, I saw him on a dating site that night a few hours later with his instant message icon displayed. He had told me he deleted his profile.
His excuse was that he had to put his profile back on to contact the dating site about a stalker that was harassing him. I knew that was a far stretch but decided to let it go. Mistake number one!
Then, we kissed and made up a week later. I decided that I had not known him very long and should understand he might be seeing other people at that point. Even though he “lied” to me!
Everything was going well and then he got mad for no reason and told me his mother was in the hospital and he had to go see her. That was a lie too! I let it go as well. Mistake number two!
There were other erratic patterns that would take too much time to discuss here. However, the biggest one, was the last one. I went to visit him and everything was going great. We had chatted one night and he was helping me do something with my site. The next day he texted me a cute little text and I responded. That was the last time I heard from him for a week.
A week later, I texted him and asked what happened? He told me that he had just gotten out of the hospital! When I asked him WHY he had not contacted me to let me know, he said that it was because he had been hooked up to tubes and electrodes, and actually had been unconscious for a day! Can you believe that. That his migraine issue was back.
I kept this going for another two days to see how outlandish the lies were going to get. I was utterly amazed. What upset me the most was that he thought I was so stupid that I believed this nonsense. That was the biggest blow to me.
He told me that the next day he had a scan planned for this “tumor” at the Mayo Clinic. When I attempted to call him that day, he was non responsive. So, he finally texted me like all people who have something to hide, and said he would call me after the scan. That he didn’t feel like talking.
Well, I had enough of the stupidity of the entire thing and called him at work at the supposed time of his “scan”. As expected, he answered the phone. Fast recovery!!! Should I send him a get well card or a kick in the A___s?
